Sunday, April 28, 2013

Blog B'Omer: This is the Ninth Post

Submitted by Daughters in the Parsha



Another report of the experience in Meron from the eyes of an American.
Well, in this case, the eyes of a Mir Bochur who reported it all to his mother in America.

YBS went up with a few friends, a tent, Talis and Tefilin, and a round trip ticket to Meron. And wipes. 

They kind of had to sneak in because officially the tents aren’t allowed in the area until Friday.  But this YBS enjoys defying the police and sneaking into wooded areas late at night to squish with four friends in a 3 person tent for three nights on a rocky slope. 

The meals on Shabbos were in shifts, and if you arrived too late for a particular shift, you had to wait until the next one began.  But one individual was not content to wait.  As YBS described it to me, it became a typical Israeli citizen/mishtara scuffle. Some shoving, some pushing, a lot of in your face screaming, etc. The usual.  But then the irate and starving traveler had enough.  He backed up, encouraging all his friends to move outta the way, and while steaming and huffing, and I think, a little bit of snorting, he barreled towards  the policemen and the crashed through the barrier that was holding back the hordes of hungry hikers.  The policemen were somewhat stunned – here was  a person really eager to eat his gefilte fish.  The man charged into the dining area, grabbed a bottle of wine or grape juice, came back out, and smashed it on the head of the police officer.   In the meantime, another brawl was escalating at some other bench in the tent, and although it was hard at first to discover who was fighting where and about what, eventually the crowd moved towards the scufflers, and other Chasidim stood up on the benches and tables for a better view.  And cheered or Woo-Woo’ed the combatants.
If you ask me, that would have been the time for the first guy to dive in and eat at a vacated seat. 

Some time during this melee and long weekend YBS was glad to have his wipes.  For a variety of purposes.  But there were no showers available.  Actually, he thinks men must have planned on using the mikva for showers, because there were signs all over the mikva stating “please do not bring soap or shampoo into the mikva.  Or little children.”

YBS also witnessed a man trying to get close to a fence to rescue his 10 year old son, but other men saw him forcefully pushing his way, and assumed he was clawing his way to the front.  So 3 or 4 of them jumped on his back to hold him back.  I looked at Yeshiva World News and Vinnews websites but didn’t see any abandoned children, so I assume his dad made it to the rescue.

But hefkerus, vildness, madness, rudeness, and general balagan-ness aside….

YBS said the atmosphere was electric. And exciting.  And when the first bonfire was lit and a huge fireball lit up the northern skies on the Yom Hillula, there was a current amongst the swaying, pushing, pulsating sea of black that every boy wants to be a part of at least once in his lifetime.  (for YBS, twice )

Blog B'Omer: This is the Eighth Post

My 2 year-old son is a Candyland shark.

Candyland, the classic children's game, is currently one of his favorite pastimes.  He will typically ask me to play with him, and it's tough to resist when he asks so politely. Besides, I enjoy the competition.

The trouble is that these Candyland games do not seem to be very competitive at all.
Since I began tracking it, we've played 9 times. Here are our records in those games:

MBB: 1-8
Son-of-MBB: 8-1

In other words, he's won 88.9% of our contests.

In know what you're all saying now.

"How can you draw any conclusions on such a small sample size? You're making a mockery of the statistical process!"

I understand your skepticism. However, consider how may times we draw conclusions from infinitesimally small sample sizes, while ignoring the larger field of data. It's incorrect, but it's also ingrained in our psyche.

Besides, it's not like he's just eking out victories. His average margin of victory is more than 10 spaces on the board. He's not just winning, he's beating me like a rented mule.

Perhaps the most unnerving part of it is how he manages to maintain his cool at all times, even when the game turns stressful. For instance, yesterday, during one of our games, he was way out in front, only a "double purple" from securing yet another easy victory, when he drew a card with a picture of a swirly lollipop on it, sending him back around thirty spaces, to a spot roughly between the Ice Palace (presided over by Princess Frostine) and Lollypop Woods (the domain of Princess Lolly). Meanwhile, I had been wallowing in the area of Licorice Lagoon, quite certain that I was well on my way to yet another humiliating defeat. Now, I had a new lease on life in this game. For him, though, this was a minor setback. He actually seemed almost happy to have drawn that card! Completely shaken by his cool demeanor, I played badly the rest of the way, and he won easily, entering the Candy Castle before I had even reached Chocolate Mountain.


The kid is a Candyland machine.

I'll probably win a couple of our next few games, you know, the whole "reversion to the mean" thing, but I'm not sure that I'll ever be able to win consistently, or even to breakeven over the long run.

So, if he ever asks any of you to play Candyland, I suggest that you agree, but prepare yourself. You're probably not going to win.



    






Blog B'Omer: This is the Seventh Post



Submitted by:  AFOREMENTIONED APPARENTLY TZIYONI DAUGHTER



Meron.

Personally, I loved it. Do I understand why people might have a general negative outlook on the whole thing? Yes, I definitely do. But like anything else you will pretty much find anywhere, there are good parts and bad parts. If you want to concentrate on the bad, then any situation could be the worst. 

As for, and I quote, "institutionalized hefkerus", I believe that unfortunately that's something you will find anywhere at any time. There's hefkerus at the Kotel. I don't think it's fair to name Lag B'omer in Meron as the National Hefkerus Day of the year.

There's alot going on in Meron on Lag B'omer. It's what you make it.

Blog B'Omer: This is the Sixth Post

I had an experience recently, that many of you have already had, and will nod your heads and say: See, that's how it is....

But it shouldn't be, and for those of you who are mothers of boys and girls, I cannot understand this attitude, because you yourself have female offspring. How in the world is it possible to reduce a person, someone's child, someone's sister, someone's friend, to one of the most degrading and dismissive terms I have heard in recent years.

"She's in the pile."

I am appalled, I am offeneded, and I am saddened. Because really, what exactly is it, that is so special that your male  offspring, at under 25 with no college and no great goals brings to the table?

 I know the answer, but this is a family blog.

Blog B'Omer: This is the Fifth Post



Submitted by: KWBSLKM




Once I went to my cousin's wedding and there I was told some wise things. One of the things I and my cousins were told was:

"Even if you are saying 'so-and-so looks ridiculous' you must smile because the camera might be on you"

We spent the rest of the night smiling no matter what was being said.

My discovery? It's a lot harder to say offensive things when you are smiling. Well, aside from sarcasm, which is often said with a smirk.

Smirking is not real smiling though.

So next time you have a cutting comment on the tip of your tongue, smile. You'd be surprised at the difference it makes in your head, and you just might end up saying something nice instead.

It's lag b'omer.

Try it.

Blog B'Omer: This is the Fourth Post



Submitted by:  A post sem girl :) 

Reflections:

This whole year has been a lot about living in the present and the past at the same time, by thinking about the last time i did each thing... Remembering the experiences I had in seminary and sometimes noticing the stark comparisons of how different life is here in America as apposed to living the the heart of a charedi community in Eretz Yisroel.

Lag B'omer seems to be a real example of these differences in the way of life and living with what seems to be a different focus. Remembering last year, in the weeks leading up to Lag B'omer (probably starting after pesach) you would notice lots of piles of wood and sticks and anything that could burn.... all the little boys getting ready for their Lag B'omer fires. ( leaving aside all the dangers involved for a moment...) as shkia got closer you saw lots of activity in the streets, kids running and getting excited and started to smell the fires starting. Walking around Yerushalyim that night there were many different bonfires and lots of beautiful singing and dancing. I saw the Belz fire, Chabad, the big fire all the families on Sorotzkin work on together to make, the little one on the small street of seminary and others as well.

 Standing on Sorotzkin you can see Ramot, and were able to notice some fires there as well. The feeling of the celebration was in the air...everywhere. The next day I went with hundreds of other people up to Meron, a very unique experience. Seeing all different types of people gathered together for the same reason... celebrating and using the day for tefila. At shkia at the end of the day there was a large bonfire with a lot of singing and dancing outside the kever... it was a unique experience I'll never forget.
 
Compare that with my day here... last night was a regular motzai shabbos (some roasting marshmallows for the spirit of things) and today a regular Sunday with some music playing in the background.

I'm not advocating for hundreds of fires, just noting the extreme difference of the way we live and celebrate different marks in yiddishkeit with the way they do it in Eretz Yisroel, where things seem to take on a whole new level of living with the past and the way to commemorate it.

Blog B'omer: This is the Third Post

This post is submitted by Soupeater


The congress has reacted quickly to the FAA's (and possibly the administration's) ploy to inflict pain on the public in order to force a political solution to the nation's economic problems.

The Senate passed a law allowing the FAA to use funds designated for other purposes to pay the air traffic controllers and to keep the planes flying. This took some of the wind out of the administration's sails. Some have commented that the FAA always had this authority and I guess the congress is forcing the issue. I wonder which public service the FAA will now claim is missing $250 million dollars in order to inflict more pain on the public. Of one thing you can be sure: The last people to feel the pain of layoffs will be those who do the least and are paid the most:  the bureacrats.

More than the quote from Congressman Lankford, I love the rebuttal better.

In a reflection of the political undercurrents, another House Republican, Rep. James Lankford of Oklahoma, said FAA employees "are being used as pawns by this (Obama) administration to be able to implement the maximum amount of pain on the American people when it does not have to be this way."

The White House and congressional Democrats vociferously dispute such claims.